The world does not always shine with iridescent colors. Sometimes we get stuck in negative thoughts. But looking at the happy people, we think, and what’s with me? Why did I suddenly become unhappy?
To begin with, understand that even the happiest people do not experience a state of happiness all the time. But they can intuitively react to unpleasant situations in several ways. This allows them to stay afloat despite the circumstances.
Unfortunately, not everyone intuitively knows how to act to maintain a positive attitude. But you can try to figure it out.
Look for the positive sides
When something bad happens to you, instead of focusing on the unpleasant side, try to see in the event positive aspects or at least potential for something positive.
For example, you were dismissed from work, the reaction of shame and fear of the future is natural. But the reaction of a happy person is to see in it an opportunity for something new and better.
Maybe it’s a chance to start a new career, find a job in a new company, get rid of a bad leader or stay at home and spend more time with children.
Some people believe that even the diagnosis of a serious illness has positive aspects, because it gives an incentive to rethink your life.
Connect your loved ones
Happy people always remain in contact with loved ones, especially with spouse, friends and close relatives. They tend to address these emotional connections and when things are going well, and when life becomes difficult.
These people understand the benefits of sharing joy and sadness. The divided grief is reduced by half. So when you feel a spiritual decline, reach out to a loved one and tell him what you feel.
By itself, communication with loved ones, as a rule, will not change the situation, but it will certainly improve your mood.
Be grateful to you
Scientists study the state of happiness for many years. As a result, they found the difference between people who feel happy, and those who are unhappy. Happy people are grateful for what they have.
They tend to focus on their strengths, rethink problems. Therefore, they are less worried and less likely to become depressed.
If you feel that it is difficult to express gratitude, take a pen and write on the paper a list of thanks from 10 points. Do not be afraid to express gratitude for the roof over your head, food in the fridge, clean air, clean water,
Try also to include in the list several of your strengths, for example, the mind or a charming smile. If you do this, the results will surely surprise you.